As soon as you trust yourself, you will know how to live –
Johann Wolfgang von Goeghe
If you have ever felt sense of self-trust, then and then only
you will realize how it is to trust someone else.
To trust yourself means that you need to understand yourself
well first.
Say, you are looking for a partner – you have written down the
criteria, like developing business ideas together, brainstorming,
being creative, questioning, learning, and building relationship
together.
Say, that new Partner is You. Develop trust with yourself.
Know who you are, know your
- Strengths
- Values
- Vision
- Your actions to build ongoing trust
- You are accountable
Let us look at this case study example:
John decided to find a life partner:
A woman with whom he can grow old. Because of being
occupied, all his partners left in the past
John gave a try on a dating website, describing all attributes
he desired in a partner
John, you’ve got mail!
Someone responded for meeting him – Julie
John could not find a partner in Julie, after one houe talk.
So, he decided to live alone – to commit his life to doubt.
He doubted to find a suitable partner for him. He withdrew
withdrew from the website. He started doubting his ability.
He will have to build inner trust for his abilities.
To create inner trust,
one must work from values of integrity, humility, gratitude,
and generosity.
Integrity = living with your values
Following through, being honest, responsible, committed,
and doing what is right, showing it outwardly; integrity must be
integral
Humility = move beyond your ego, beyond sense of feeling
more important than others, open to learning, open to not
knowing, open to seeing beauty in others. It is the key that
opens our mind to learning from others; it is trusting who we
are so that we can trust others
Gratitude = shifter of energy
Our worries are small in comparison to what we have to be
grateful for. If you are thankful for those who they are,
you can have a healthy and optimistic view of the world.
Signs of healthy mind, body, and soul:
- Acknowledging
- Praising
- Appreciating
- Being grateful
Finally,
Generocity = giving away, when you feel full and satisfied.
You have to value yourself, have self-respect, love yourself,
then only you can trust others.
Trust yourself, in order to trust others.
If you doubt that what you do, you not believe in, then
you are in doubt; you will destroy all trust others have in you.
Suresh Shah, Pathfinders Enterprise
Adapted from excellent write by Bronwyn Bowery